Lying. We all do it. Yes we do.
No matter how mellifluous the voice used to tell them and innocuous the label – white lies, fibs etc. They are still lies and they will catch you out.
Lying seems to start when you don’t want to get in trouble for kicking your sister or breaking a family heirloom. “It wasn’t me?!” Well it wasn’t Santa Claus.
I think we get pretty good at it as kids, the threat of a wooden spoon will do that, and the reason we continue boils down to the same reason – fear.
Fear of loss, punishment or pain or being alone. Even though sometimes we just want to be left alone and out comes the biggest lie of all – I’m fine.
“The average person tells 4 lies a day or 1460 a year; a total of 87,600 by the age of 60. And the most common lie is: I’m fine.”
Someone once told me I had to try and be honest and kind at the same time. No need to lie and nothing you have to remember you said to one person, and another, and another.
It takes a lot less energy to be honest. Being kind at the same time? That takes some thought, but is a lot easier and will add a lot to your relationships.
Next time you hear a fib or lie pass your lips, think about why you’re saying it. What are you in fear, of and should you be afraid? The answer will generally be no.
Face your fears, be honest and kind at the same time and watch the lines fall from your face and the furtive looks over your shoulder stop.